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SO...! It's your first time meeting a couple!
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SO...! It's your first time meeting a couple! You have to have a first time for everything, so why not do it right when it’s your first experience in the lifestyle? Since you're already laid down the guidelines(between partners and between the couple you’re going to meet) for what kind of events may happen, you now need the perfect setting to get the night off to a perfect start. Location, Location, Location When you're starting off, you want to be completely comfortable with the other couple (or single, etc). Choosing a place that suits everyone is a great way to begin. Many times, a house or hotel room might be chosen. We personally don't like the sterility of a hotel room, so I will talk about being at someone's house and you can apply these ideas to anywhere that you choose. Creating an inviting environment starts with talking to everyone about things that they find seductive. Just talking about the evening may be erotic enough, but picking a house that is quiet and secluded may create the mood that you're looking for. Turning Down The Lights It's seemed clichéd to light a bunch of candles for a seduction scene, but it really works. The soft glow of the candles creates lighting that works for all skin tones and types, lessening any imperfections that may exist. The other bonus to a few flickering candles is that you can settle any remaining nerves in virtual darkness. There's a sense of privacy that comes in almost complete darkness and your inhibitions can retreat in that safe feeling. Fun Extras You may also find that a few additional comforts can add to your planned evening. I like to spread pillows and soft blankets out in any of the rooms that may be used throughout the course of the night. If you don't have anyone with allergies or sensitivities, you may find that lighting a little incense is a great idea–sandalwood is incredibly erotic. Although this might not sound like 'fun' as such, having plenty of protection available will make for a safe and fun adventure. Condoms and spermicidal in every locale will ensure that your bases (and other things) are covered. Making Everyone Comfortable The first time is the time for compliments and more compliments. This is no time to be judgmental (if there ever is one) or make the other person feel that they're not doing well. If something isn't going as well as it could, gently guide the other person down a better path and show them how much pleasure you are feeling for it. Privacy Matters There's nothing that can kill a mood faster than an unexpected interruption. Turn off all of the phones, cellular phones, pagers, faxes, etc. You do not want to have the chance that something could break your concentration during a particularly important moment. Send any to a sitter or relative's house and make sure that any animals are kept out of the way as well. If you're concerned about an actual emergency, then set up some way to communicate that. Other than that, draw the shades and blinds, turn off the porch light, and lock all the doors. We have many years in this wounderful lifestyle, hope you do as well.. R/J |
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6/29/2009 8:44 am |
You can tell that this couple is on the pulse. Everything they have to say is very important or a novice getting into the lifestyle. Thank you for being able to articulate it in such a user friendly way. Enjoy Life.
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8/27/2010 9:16 am |
Thank you I so enjoyed reading this and while my experience with couples is very limited it helps to know some helpful ideas to help ease tensions and calms spirits while you are trying to get to know someone. I espeically loved that you guys added the cell phones being turned off etc. It's a definitely mood killer especially if your partner(s) decide to answer it.
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11/4/2010 9:02 am |
Sounds like a great experience!!
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